Sunday, January 24, 2010

Tragedy

My dear friend's husband died on Thursday. He died unexpectedly and tragically.  I am grieving so deeply for her and her children and struggling with being so many miles away when I know she is in her darkest hours.

Today as I spoke with mutual friends here and one friend in her "new" hometown there, a million thoughts circled around but one image kept pushing its way back into my mind:

It's my friend in a wedding dress, surrounded by us, her deep pool of friends.  She's walking somberly with us trailing behind, like bridesmaids. But instead of her train we are each carrying a heavy boulder.

If only it were so easy. If only I could step in line and carry some of this weight for her. I'd lug a huge boulder around all day, every day, if it would somehow ease her burden even just a little.

8 comments:

  1. This is so awful, and I'm so sorry for your dear friend, for you. The image of the bridesmaids with the boulders is so intense and shocking. I am sending good thoughts to you and concern.

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  2. Mary, I'm so sorry to read this. Your love and compassion, your care and concern, your openhearted listening will bless her. Praying for her and her family, and for you. Again, I'm so sorry.

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  3. Oh I am so, so sorry for your friend.

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  4. the shock is so awful when something like this happens. Our friend died in a skiiing accident two years ago and it still shocks us that "one of us" has - and CAN go. I am sure your love and strength will help her through this terrible time

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  5. Thanks for the support everyone...I really needed to write about this here, so thank you.

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  6. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Wishing you comfort and peace.

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  7. Hi Mary:
    I am a producer for Discovery Network doing a show about Prader Willi. I've been reading your wonderful blog and would like to talk to you.
    My preferred email is Smedia011@aol.com.

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